Toddlers just want to be like their moms and dads. Simple as that. And it breaks their hearts when we tell them they cant do something we are doing because its “for grown ups only.” I realize that we cant go around all day doing only things that our toddlers can, but I know that I can at least make a few changes to make my toddler feel more included.
For example, I am a tea drinker. I like it black, I like it caffeinated, and I like it with sugar. Not a toddler friendly beverage. In fact, I am even guilty of letting Beth have a tiny little sip once (or twice) just to satisfy her so that I can continue to drink it in front of her. She doesn’t understand that it isn’t healthy for her, she only knows that when I am drinking water or juice she can have a sip, but when I have my tea mug she can’t. Another example I can think of is putting on makeup. Beth watches me so closely and reaches for the lotion and gently rubs it on her cheeks, but when I put on eye makeup she gets so sad because she doesn’t understand why she can’t put eye makeup on too.
Im trying to be this awesome example for her, so why am I doing things in front of her that she cant participate in? My point isn’t that mothers should never drink tea or coffee or put on makeup, Im just saying that I can put my makeup on when she is taking a nap or before she wakes up in the morning. I can drink my tea during those times too. And besides, putting makeup on without your toddler staring you down is the easiest way to go about it, and drinking my tea without someone constantly begging for it is much more relaxing. I can even snuggle up with a book and relax for an hour while she sleeps and really enjoy the down time. Such a simple concept to help make the day easier and more fun for you and your toddler. Would love to hear your thoughts and what you are doing that is “for grown up only..”





